I work intensively to help you achieve an optimal marriage and to repair and correct any problems you've had in your efforts to create one.  Couples often seek me out when they need help overcoming a major life or relationship crisis, but they also get help recognizing how to more comprehensively build a healthy marriage to prevent such things from happening in the future.

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I help you sift through all of the complex information about your lives to identify the core of what needs to happen and I guide you on the path to make it so. 

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I do this by offering tailored intensive sessions in which I facilitate the conversations and experiences you need to move you forward.  I then provide you customized sets of tools, practices, readings, and experiences that you can use to do this on your own.

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When couples deeply embrace the process they find themselves not only renovated in their own relationship, but able to more powerfully move forward in their parenting, financial management, personal health and wellness, extended family relationships, and in their time, career, and home management, among other things.

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I work effectively with a wide variety of couples and with all of the core reasons people seek help.  I do find that couples in these categories do especially well in therapy with me:

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• Improve on what is already there:  I help couples who still love one another and have a commitment to be married, but in which life stressors and situations have highlighted things that need to be built and improved to level up on marital skills for the long haul.

• Super systematic self-starters:  I offer lots of tools to couples who want to take an ongoing, guided effort to work on their marriage with the long view in mind, and who enjoy doing a lot of work on their own, with guidance from me as needed.

• Repairing, rejuvenating, and building an even better marriage after infidelity:  I am highly effective at helping couples struggling to make sense out of, recover from, and/or repair past relationship ruptures such as infidelity.

• The meaning of love:  Couples who are confused about whether they love each other, have problems and disturbances due to sexual mismatches, difficulty regulating sexual attraction to other people, compulsive pornography use, etc.

• Growth-oriented:  Couples who want to focus on fundamental marriage improvement while at the same time focusing on increased personal wellness, improved parenting, better time, career, and financial management, and better relationships with extended family.

• Stop the Arguing Already!  I work well with couples who experience easily incited and difficult to manage fighting/arguing with one another to calm the storm and connect instead of conflagrate.  
• Complex situations and couples:  I help couples where one or both members have a history of serious concerns such as early exposure to parental infidelity, childhood abuse, military or other trauma, or other unusual circumstances to not only build a better marriage, but assimilate and overcome past issues.

• Super-thinkers:  I connect well with and am helpful to highly scientific, intellectual thinkers and professionals who yet have difficulty with the conflicts and connections of marriage.